Anger, Resentment or Frustration
As a Strategic Hypnotherapist I am interested to identify the comorbidities which sit behind the strong emotions you are running. These are typically going to be anxiety, addictions (for relaxation), a raging internal dialogue and a tendency to take things personally. There may also be a high need for control, extreme self referencing and dichotomous thinking (black & white thinking).
Anger, resentment, or frustration can be internalised or externalised and is a normal, healthy emotion, neither good nor bad. Like any emotion, it conveys a message, telling you that a situation is upsetting, unjust, or threatening. If your kneejerk reaction to these emotions is to explode, however, that message never has a chance to be conveyed. So, while it’s perfectly normal to feel these emotions when you’ve been mistreated or wronged, they becomes a problem when you express it in a way that harms yourself or others.
You might think that venting your anger, resentment or frustration is healthy, that the people around you are too sensitive, that your strong emotion is justified, or that you need to show these strong emotions to get respect. But the truth is that they are much more likely to have a negative impact on the way people see you, impair your judgment, and get in the way of success.
How I can assist you
Why a Strategic Hypnotherapist?
As a Strategic Hypnotherapist I am looking to identify which of the 7 experiential gaps (which guide me in my strategic psychotherapy) that sit behind your emotions. I am also interested to identify the comorbidities which sit behind these strong emotions you are running. These are typically going to be anxiety, addictions (for relaxation), a raging internal dialogue and a tendency to take things personally. There may also be a high need for control, extreme self referencing and dichotomous thinking (black & white thinking).
Framing your anger, resentment or frustration through the Gordian Pillars™ will enable me to support you in identifying the inner tools and resources you perhaps aren’t utilising in your life, and transition you to a place where you are able to engage your inner strengths in more functional and productive behaviour.
For you to get maximum benefits from your Anger / Resentment / Frustration Clinical Hypnotherapy sessions, typically allow for between 3 - 6 Sessions depending on the levels of these and any underlying comorbid mental health concerns
Effects of Anger, Resentment of Frustration
Chronic emotions that flare up all the time or spiral out of control can have serious consequences for your:
Physical health. Constantly operating at high levels of stress and anger makes you more susceptible to heart disease, diabetes, a weakened immune system, insomnia, and high blood pressure.
Mental health. Chronic emotions consume huge amounts of mental energy, and cloud your thinking, making it harder to concentrate or enjoy life. It can also lead to stress, depression, and other mental health problems.
Career. Constructive criticism, creative differences, and heated debate can be healthy. But lashing out only alienates your colleagues, supervisors, or clients and erodes their respect.
Relationships. Strong emotions can cause lasting scars in the people you love most and get in the way of friendships and work relationships. Explosive emotions makes it hard for others to trust you, speak honestly, or feel comfortable—and is especially damaging to children.
If you have are reactive emotionally, you may feel like it’s out of your hands and there’s little you can do to tame the beast. But you have more control over your strong emotions than you think. With insight about the real reasons for these emotions and emotional management tools, you can learn to express your emotions without hurting others and yourself - and keep your temper from hijacking your life.
Negative thought patterns that trigger these emotions
You may think that external factors—the insensitive actions of other people, for example, or frustrating situations—are causing your strong emotions. But these emotions have less to do with what happens to you than how you interpret and think about what happened. Common negative thinking patterns that trigger and fuel these emotions include:
Overgeneralizing. For example, “You ALWAYS interrupt me. You NEVER consider my needs. EVERYONE disrespects me. I NEVER get the credit I deserve.”
Obsessing over “shoulds” and “musts.” Having a rigid view of the way a situation should or must go and getting emotional when reality doesn’t line up with this vision.
Mind reading and jumping to conclusions. Assuming you “know” what someone else is thinking or feeling—that they intentionally upset you, ignored your wishes, or disrespected you.
Collecting straws. Looking for things to get upset about, usually while overlooking or blowing past anything positive. Letting these small irritations build and build until you reach the “final straw” and explode, often over something relatively minor.
Blaming. When anything bad happens or something goes wrong, it’s always someone else’s fault. You tell yourself, “Life’s not fair,” or blame others for your problems rather than taking responsibility for your own life.
About Anger, Resentment or Frustration
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What’s really behind your anger, resentment or frustration?
Have you ever gotten into an argument over something silly? If you find your irritation and emotions rapidly rising, ask yourself, “What am I really emotional about?” Identifying the real source of frustration will help you communicate your emotions better, take constructive action, and work towards a resolution.
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Is your anger, resentment or frustration masking other feelings such as embarrassment, insecurity, hurt, shame, or vulnerability?
If your knee-jerk response in many situations is to express these strong emotions, it’s likely that these strong emotions are covering up your true feelings. This is especially likely if you grew up in a family where expressing feelings was strongly discouraged. As an adult, you may have a hard time acknowledging feelings other than anger, resentment or frustration
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Anger, resentment or frustration can also mask anxiety.
When you perceive a threat, either real or imagined, your body activates the “fight or flight” response. In the case of the “fight” response, it can often manifest itself through strong emotion such as anger or aggression. To change your response, you need to find out what’s causing you to feel anxious or scared.
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Anger, resentment or frustration problems can stem from what you learned as a child.
If you watched others in your family scream, hit each other, or throw things, become resentful and be constantly frustrated, you might think this is how emotions are supposed to be expressed.
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Anger, resentment or frustration can be a symptom of another underlying mental health problem.
For example depression, trauma, or chronic stress.
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Red Flags for Anger, Resentment or frustration problems
You have a hard time compromising. Is it hard for you to understand other people’s points of view, and even harder to concede a point?
You view different opinions as a personal challenge. Do you believe that your way is always right and get heightened when others disagree?
You have trouble expressing emotions other than anger, resentment or frustration. Do you pride yourself on being tough and in control? Do you feel that emotions like fear, guilt, or shame don’t apply to you?
Contact Us
Therapy can be a great way to explore the reasons behind your anger, resentment of constant frustration and identify triggers. Therapy can also provide a safe place to practice new skills for expressing these emotions. I will support and guide you through understanding your emotional problem, exploration of the emotion, identifying warning signs and triggers as well as understanding the message behind the emotion, and learning to express it in a healthy way without losing control.
To learn the skills to understand and manage anger in your life, click the link below to book an appointment.